1. Write a condolence letter.
Writing a condolence letter is one of the best ways of expressing heartfelt condolence. Many people choose to buy cards instead, which is a generic way of showing concern. But the receiver of the letter will probably appreciate the gesture so much more if the words came directly from you and not from the writers of the greeting card company. Well thought-out words expressing encouragement and hope, as well as showing support is sure to get your message across to him or her. With a customized letter you can also share a memory of the one who has passed away, with him or her. You may even decide to write your own poem, which is much more effective than using clichés.
2. Lend an ear or a shoulder to cry on.
Being there for the person when he or she needs to vent will demonstrate to them that you truly care. Many people are not willing to hear them out for fear that they will become burdened with pain. At times they will listen to them and provide comfort a few times, but then they will grow weary of having to listen to the same words repeatedly. Showing a consistent effort to listen and be a friend should make him or her realize that you are concerned. Answering the phone at times when it may be inconvenient for you will show this as well. Although you should not badger them with phone calls, it might be helpful to be the one to make calls to them once in awhile. In this way, they do not have to hesitate to call and you can assure the person that you will be there to assist in his or her recovery.
3. Help out with household chores or errands.
During this time of grieving, the person needs all the free time that he or she can get. Unfortunately, life goes on despite any misfortune that comes along the way. In order to alleviate the person from this, you can volunteer to do their household chores or errands. Keep in mind, you must suggest doing tasks realistically, as you probably might not be able to go into the office and work for them. You also should balance taking on tasks that will not completely interfere with your own schedule. Sacrificing is a good gesture, but of course, to an extent. In order to keep strong at the other end, you must make sure you can handle all that you are offering to give. Some examples of tasks you can do are taking care of the children and the pets, providing meals for them, doing the dishes and perhaps even cleaning the house.
4. Spend time with the person grieving.
There are some people who need time to themselves to fully release any bottled-up emotion they have inside that they do not feel comfortable expressing in front of others. On the other hand, there are also people who wish for company. They may feel lonely and want somebody to spend time with. In the latter case, you should take the time to take them out for dinner or perhaps on a getaway somewhere if they are ready to. It helps to take their mind off the pain, even if only temporarily, and be reminded of how it feels to be happy again.
